
(accept blame) “I’m sorry if I forgot to tell you.” It’s written on the calendar and I told you about it yesterday and this morning.”ĭO: (short explanation) “It’s just a regular checkup.”

If they were deliberately trying to exasperate you, they would have a different diagnosis. People living with dementia say and do normal things for someone with memory impairment.

They tell a person how disabled they are – over and over again. Don’t correct, contradict, blame or insist. Expecting them to be reasonable or to accept your conclusion is unrealistic. (Common questions like “Did you take your pills?” or “What did you do today?” are the equivalent of asking them to remember something.) A loss of this magnitude reduces the capacity to reason. Asking them to remember is like asking a blind person to see. You can’t control memory loss – only your reaction to it.įor people with dementia, their disability is memory loss.
